(((((((((111))))))))) I thought you could use a few extra hugs.
I can hear the depression in your posts. I bet you kinda feel like the day he dropped the bomb? Let yourself be sad. Cry, scream, eat ice cream, throw pillows... cry some more. Give yourself some healing time.
Then, when you've gotten a little strength. Take a shower, or bath. Find some uplifting music. No one expects you to 'feel better' overnight.
Don't put this all on you. It's very easy to give into the acceptance that *you* did everything wrong.
As far as feeling more confident... Bklynmom and I both bought fancy 'underthings' Just a little something that no one else would see, but makes us feel a little sexy. I cut my hair and did highlights after the bomb. Try to find something simple that makes you like who you see in the mirror..... the more you do it, the better you start to feel.
It's a long, rough ride on this DB roller coaster.
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
Just a little something that no one else would see, but makes us feel a little sexy. I cut my hair and did highlights after the bomb. Try to find something simple that makes you like who you see in the mirror..... the more you do it, the better you start to feel. 
