Okay, I'm trying to detach. I'm working like crazy on my 180 & gal... but my W and I have been seeing each other every day since she moved out. We do family things ( walks, dinners, parties) & today she called twice... Had half hour conversations & several really nice texts between us the last few days. The Boys and I will bring her out for a birthday dinner and she said that she will go skiing/ snowboarding with us this week. I'm not complaining, all of this contact makes it easier for her to notice my positive changes- but is this really detaching? I try to act "as if"... So hard, because it is probably obvious that I adore her. Still waiting & scared to death of receiving D/S papers...nothing mentioned yet. What should I do, should I withdraw from her... Worried about pushing her away. Honestly, some of our conversations have been heartfelt, sincere & I have felt closer to her than I have in a long time- ironically she doesn't live here & there is no physical contact Maybe moving out gives her a feeling of distance and safety, although it is only 2 miles away, maybe she can miss me more from 2 miles than she could when I was 8000 miles away. While in Afghanistan, tempers, emotions and feelings were hurt and raw. Perhaps this is how we heal, baby steps and at an arms length distance.
(F.K.A. Broken422)
US 40's M 17,T 19 2 BOYS 13,16 Divorced 4/2012 11/2011 W SAID SHE WANTS D
"When it is dark enough,you can see the stars"- Ralph Waldo Emerson
