Welcome to the boards, at the same time... sorry you had to come here.

It's great that you've already talked to the coaches and read the book!

"She says she loves me, cares about me, but didn't feel wanted or fulfilled in our marriage. She says she is the only one who tried to make it work. Says she can only remember bad times. I know these are all pretty typical sentiments of a wife who's about to walk away. I admit I made some mistakes, but I don't accept all the blame. There are two people in a marriage, after all."

I think we've all heard some version of this, you are in good company. There's a saying around here: don't believe what they say, and only believe about 50% of what they do" (I really hope I got that right.) This little phrase has helped me though all the times when my H is reminding me how he doesn't love me and won't change his mind- most recently today, our 'would-have-been' anniversary. The WAS *has* to convince themselves that what they are doing is the right thing and therefore they focus on the negatives so they feel justified.

One other thought about your W's depression/hormone imbalance... I suffered from PMDD (pre-menstrual disphoric disorder) and that led to a severe post-partum depression after our first son. Sadly, I was unable to get medical help until he was about 2 years old.... those 2 years were he!! on earth for me and my H. If your W is acting 'crazy' and out of control (planning her flings sounds like she's on a self-distructive path) than I can relate.(all the gory details are in my 1st post.) It would be great if you could get her to to an OB that could look at the hormones and possibly find some therapies to get her back to 'normal'...
not sure how you could do that.?

Keep posting even though it takes a while for them to show up. Make sure you check out other's posts, there will be some that have strong similarities and you can gain some insights from their experiences smile

Welcome abord the roller coaster. Get comfortable, it's a long, bumpy ride.

M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12