Yeah, you are right...I guess there's not a lot of advantage to being "strong". Although, I do think having people see you handle situations with grace/strength and take the high road.
Definitely not great timing, but I met a very nice man last night. He is also going through a divorce, so there are warning lights flashing over both of our heads. However, I think he may have been sent to me for a reason--knowing there are other fish in the sea (and he seems like a man with great values, etc) is helping me have the strength to do the separation with H. If H won't get out of his affair (this weekend's behavior was again ridiculous)...I need to start moving on and I would love to develop a formal schedule with H so I have opportunities for doing things with friends and meeting new people.
Tomorrow we go to the MC to figure out how to tell the kids, plan the separation, etc.
By the way, H got home this morning (I had no idea he was coming)...he's doing all of his usual "nice" things but I'm just starting to see them for what they are...lame attempts to keep himself on his fence and make me happy enough for another week to put up with this crap.
I guess I've had enough...
M 44, H 46 D11, D9, D5 Married 12 years PA confirmed 9/2011 I filed 3/2012 H moved out 7/2012