Most Likely Youngster Goes His Way (& W Goes Hers)

[25yearsmlc]

IF there is a next time your w brings sex with ANY other man up around you
(and I almost hope there is)

I hope you'll hold up you hand with your palm outward

and say "Whoah hold on ex w, I don't expose you to MY sexual exploits and don't expect you to tell me about yours...it's called 'boundaries'..."

if you are on otherwise good terms then change topics & say something like

"now why don't you tell me about that new job/place you are getting INSTEAD?"

But if the talk is just closure of details and may be the last time you two talk, and she brings it up then you say all the rest and close with

"it's called 'boundaries', and maybe If we'd had them earlier we wouldn't be here now - but that's not my responsibility now. BUT I sure wish you well though," and get up and with a genuinely warm BUT DETACHED MANNER -

leave the area....and let her go find what it is she seeks...

don't keel over if she calls you in six months - but don't you dare wait for it either.

You can argue this is a tactic- but only in part. It's also a teaching point for HER to learn basic courtesy, AND it's a boundary setting BY YOU (and w/a little mystery tossed in there too)

You are a better man than before, and you'll be a better h than before. So there's a really good chance you'll be in a much happier marriage than before.

to whomever


((( )))