How to get her to try again?

[Abbey]

AJ, beyond all the DBing, you have to go with, what is working and what isn't. Is being nice to her working on some level? I mean she is still engaging you.

I know with my H the first time, I had to engage him first, in order to cut him off. That might be the way you have to go. Be nice, get your ducks in a row legally, and then push birdie out of the nest once she's had some of the benefits of your niceness. The only way she'll miss it, is if she's had a taste of it in her wacked out state. It's hard to do this, esp since there is no guarantee that this will work. But at least you can say, you did both sides of the coin, if it doesn't work, and can start to rebuild if you need to. BTW... mistakes from us at this point aren't as crucial as we often think. Because they're alien abducted... the don't remember a lot of what happens anyway... so you get a few mulligans even if you slip up here and there.

cheers
Abs