I know MLC is depression but it doesn't excuse all the pain, the lies and betrail. I got depressed and DID NOT lie and cheat and abuse anyone. In my opinion, i feel it is all a form of control to have both side of the medals. Me at home, filling my duty as a wife( without emotional bound but not allowed to date) and mother, and OWs for the fun. NO RESPONSABILITIES on eighter side. Beautiful life.
Think about it! Do they feel depress if no one confronts them? Not for a minute. Their problem araise when someone puts their foot down witch is when they go crawling back to the other.
This, to me, is all BS.
I needed his MLC to realize how his controlling ways destroyed ALL of us. I kept ignoring it and by doing so, my kids do the same. The scars are deep and i hope that by standing-up to XH for what is right will show my kids to believe in themselves and not be afraid to stand up for what is right. I am not talking about abusing back, i'm talking about making decisions or choices.
Anyway, XH didn't show up, at all, last week! He called friday night to ask if anyone waited for him Thursday. D16 said: " They did until 6:30 and made plans afterword. He, apparently, was in Toronto. He did not have any contact with anybody else than D16 because she answered the phone.
I am breaking free. I no longer want to know the why or when or who or what! I want my independance and self-esteem and self-confidence at 100 percent witch i do not have around XH and realize i haven't had, for YEARS prior to bomb. I want ME back!
