For the first couple months it bothered me but I know it will take time before she is ready so I'm using this time to be a better husband and father without the intimacy.
I know what I need to do so I'm working on me. Last talk we had she said she wants to see the romantic side of me, I have to dig deep because I can't remember being all that romantic ever.
I do feel fortunate in that the cold shoulder and avoiding me stage is over.
Just seems like I have to to all the heavy lifting and somehow not complain that I'm getting none of my needs met. In reality I'm not happy but hopefully long term this will all be worth it.
Last night I did get a commitment that she will go to Retroville end of this month.
M 42 W 41 S 10 D 7 M 15 Years T 20 Years Divorce busted
Not removing personal responsibility from the equation....
But have you considered your W does not feel in control of her own life?
It may not be necessarily your behaviors but the circumstances.
For example: my job moves me a lot, so it kills most chances of my wife having a good long term career. Thus I pay the bills, this makes things worse.
Now from what I understand both of your W's work, so maybe it's something else. Try to find if there is something in her life she feels helpless about.
Good suggestion, I will try to find out if her new job is making her feel helpless in some way.
M 42 W 41 S 10 D 7 M 15 Years T 20 Years Divorce busted
Closing this thread -- thank you everyone for your comments! Please don't post on this one any more, I've started another one called "Putting it back together part 2"
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
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