I know it's almost impossible not to read these things, because you feel like you have to know what's going on. But all it will ultimately do is backfire on YOU because you will have a very hard time eliminating from your head what you see and read. Your imagination will compound on what you read. You might find out things that will be very hard, if not impossible, for you to forgive for a long time.
And what's worse, what your mind concocts out of all of it may not really be quite like what is actually going on. So you might respond in ways that don't help the situation because you're only seeing it from your view. You'll never know all the facts, just parts of them, and like I said those that you will know you may have an extremely hard time forgetting and ultimately forgiving.
I would urge you not to keep reading these emails and any other things that will ultimately upset you. It's definitely not easy, but in my case, I did eventually figure out that it was like injecting poison into my own mind everytime I snooped. I only started to feel better when I decided that I didn't want to know any more and would deal with things without trying to know every detail. I ultimately realized I never would know, so I stopped torturing myself.
You already know he's up to no good, so the question you probably should ask yourself is: how much more do you want to subject yourself to?
I wish you well.
M-34 XW-32 D-7 Found OM's presence 4/09 Separated 12/09 Divorced 8/10 GREAT relationship as coparents since 8/10