I read this article and I hate to admit it, but he needs to detach from me as much as I need to detach from him We had an unhealthy relationship for too long. I am just going to keep hoping that we will grow while apart and become healthy individuals that can come together and be wonderful. I know it's possible. And I know a part of him wants just that. I wish he wasn't thinking of other people during this time apart.
I have a couple of friends (around my age, so mid-twenties) who separated from their partners for 1 year (one just under a year, one just over). One saw a few different people (left her husband because she was having an A) and when her husband eventually started dating someone, realized what she was throwing away, and a few months later they reconciled. They're now happier than they've ever been.
My other friend, whom I've known for 8 years, left her partner because she'd fallen in love with his best friend. They even became engaged. She started to feel weird about it, and realized that she wanted her family back. They're also the happiest now than they've ever been.
I need to have patience, and to realize that just because he's interested in dating around doesn't mean that this is the end for us. It just adds a whole other level of fear for me, but I need to find my strength and stop fearing everything. That is what I'm trying to change, more than anything. There is hope. He's still in love with me. He hasn't had the chance to miss me yet.
It's been 1 month today.
M & H 25 T 9 D 7 S 4 Bomb 11/11 Confused about feelings for me. Bomb 12/11 ILYBNILWY, moved out 2-1-12 We're exclusive & dating each other. 3-4-12 H moved back in. 3-31-12 I deserve better. I'm done
We had an unhealthy relationship for too long. I am just going to keep hoping that we will grow while apart and become healthy individuals that can come together and be wonderful. I know it's possible. And I know a part of him wants just that. I wish he wasn't thinking of other people during this time apart.