(((HUGS))) It is more than okay to cry - hZll - scream if you need to. get it out and then pick yourself up.
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[btw- does anyone know why the WAS can't look you in the eye sometimes, but when they are being mean/cruel, they look you straight in the eye? I would love to understand the psychology behind this.]
Yes, it is the selfishness that MLCers display. They can only look you straight in the eye when they need to convince themselves that they are doing this for the right reasons.
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Has anyone experienced this ^^^^ cold, confident statement from the WAS and then they actually DO change their mind?? Or is it possible that he will never change his mind just to prove a point? I'm really shaky now, and I could use some hope or a reality check.[/b]
Yes, my H was COMPLETELY rude, selfish, and just a bully. They believe that the only thing standing in the way of their happiness is us - the spouse. My H even told me that he was no longer to prentend to be happy with me, that he didn't care if feel of the face of the earth, that he didn't like me and that he was "going to out there and get some happiness".
That was NOT the person I met or married. I was destroyed by his comments and treatment. He did change his mind - on his own without my inteference and being dark and GALng was the best thing for me.
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My GAL for today: I'm going to the movies at a cinema cafe, and having a glass of wine while I watch Girl w/Dragon Tattoo to celebrate my anniversary alone. I figured that movie wouldn't evoke feelings of love and loss, but we'll see.
Sounds like fun! Think of today as your day - do whatever you can to make yourself enjoy it.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
