Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

[Abbey]

The problem with the perception of being strong,... is that often we get swept under the rug when it comes to our feelings. Other people assume we can "take it". Or at the least, it becomes convenient to simply ignore pain that is being inflicted upon us.

As for the secrecy... I'm convinced now more than ever that popping the lid off of it DOES take the shine off the new penny. It by itself, isn't always enough to kill the affair, but it helps put the right dents in the fenders of the thing.

Doing my "invasion" a few months back DID something I didn't anticipate... H saw a side of me I rarely show... an angry, AND very determined individual. I think part of the trick is pouring cold water on it, then going back to being calm.

Secrecy and I suspect over the top emotions are part of the draw to affairs. Pulling the covers back, taking that clandestine draw away from it, CAN be helpful.

I think that the "don't tell" advise is vastly wrong. A lot of people NEED to know they weren't going crazy, with the suspicions. I know I did. I needed that admission from H. If for no other reason than to say: You want to try this again... I WILL catch you.

Abs