West, 25 made alot of good points about your wife. I don't think there is much you could do to "fix" that email.....
..... I'm not sure if your 2nd email made it any better. I still don't understand why you are sharing in the filing cost.. but that's just me.
It might not be a bad idea to set up some "waiting periods". For example.. I will wait at least one hour to respond to text, I will wait at least 24 hrs to compose an email or respond to an email.
This allows me to look at what I'm saying and make sure I'm not backsliding.. or being stupid.
I guess it also could make w think I'm out GALing.. but I try not to focus on what she thinks too much.
Anyway...
Might be worth a try... especially that your dynamic with your w has recently changed.
Otherwise don't beat yourself up too much. I definitely agree with 25 that you have come a LONG way.. so I think you will learn from this and change.
Keep on Keeping On.
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