I vote my relationship as one of the biggest runaway failures of 2003...but I vote me as one of the most self improved...still sober and still sane despite his shenanigans....db'ing has helped me to become and stay a better person, closer to God, sober, and sane through all of his mistreatments of me. Pam is doing excellent in this area, too....she is a rock these days...taking care of herself for a change! Way to go, Pam!
Congratulations to all those who made great strides in 2003...you have my utmost respect! Rock on!
To those of us who did not do so well in the relationship arena.....so what? We are stronger, better, people and we deserve better than the lousy spouses we chose....our pickers were broken...next time we'll do better!
Okay well I will post mine. My h left in June. I found the website about a month later bought the book and have been applying db techniques since. I strayed a little. Came back to the sight for inspiration and found it with many of you. As of the first of December h came home. I'm still dbing and everything is slow but steady progress.
I felt a little uncomfortable being pointed out as a "success", but I've been thinking about that. I don't expect a perfect 10 to be happy in my R. There are still uncomfortable bumps in the road and healing to do, but all in all, I can say that I have been successful. A year ago, my H was having an A with a co-worker and was convinced that our R was over. Now he's committed to me and we have a much stronger, more loving R than we had before. If that isn't success, I guess I don't know what is!
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