Is There Hope?

[BFloat]

welcome to the board! i take it you are not on the west coast because there is certainly no snow here!

sorry you find yourself here but it is a great place to get support. sounds like you have been getting some really good advice. and i agree.. stop pursuing!!!


- Do you think I should stay until he gets back (even if we don't talk at all until then) ... Risk.. he could be really mean when he gets home and insist I move out pretty much immediately (I doubt he would toss me on the street that night or anything
- Do you think that I should even want to stay in a relationship with this person? If he is willing of course. Which he may not be. But lets say, he comes home. Agrees to go on the trip and let me stay till May 1 (which I prefer) and in the meantime we get along fantastically and we start to fall for each other once again
Given that we don't have much tied together other than history, our hearts and I am his commonlaw and POA (easy fix with a few papers). We could walk away without too much fall out.

i worry about what you say in the above. it sounds like he holds all the cards. i understand that he is the WAS and that you want him to come back.. but it concerns me that you are not thinking about what's best for you. unfortunately.. the WAS is often capable of doing and saying very hurtful things without really thinking about anyone but themselves.

it might be best to go dark. is there somewhere you could go if it's decided that you won't be staying with him when he gets back? if you have a backup, i think you may feel a little more confident and stronger.

as for whether or not you should stay together. you will need to ask yourself if YOU want to stay together. while he's away.. it gives you a chance to think about what your boundaries are and what you will or will not put up with.

keep posting! it really does help!