and thanks ANS, 'specially for the hugs. I need them.
Yeah. We all need them sometimes. A virtual hug sometimes feels good, even if we can't get a real one.
Originally Posted By: Oneeleven
Do you think I should stay until he gets back (even if we don't talk at all until then) ... Risk.. he could be really mean when he gets home and insist I move out pretty much immediately
That's a question only you can answer. I've been there, from the "mean" perspective. Repeated kicks in the stomach. So many of the things my W said are still with me and still cause me unimaginable pain. Outwardly, I'm detached. To be honest, I'm not so good at it on the inside.
So the question is, are you willing to take the risk?
If you're asking about the stress of being forced out in a hurry (rather than the "mean" stuff), then I don't really have an answer. Sorry.
Some people would think I'm being kinda stupid for putting up with all of this, but for me, it was - and continues to be - worth the risk. In my case, W stopped being mean and settled on more or less indifferent. That's not good enough for me, so I hang in there. Stupid? Maybe. I dunno.
Originally Posted By: Oneeleven
Do you think that I should even want to stay in a relationship with this person? If he is willing of course. Which he may not be. But lets say, he comes home. Agrees to go on the trip and let me stay till May 1 (which I prefer) and in the meantime we get along fantastically and we start to fall for each other once again
Once again, only you can answer this question. I would venture that if he is not willing, then you could cut your losses or you could continue to DB. If, however, he is willing, then that's what you want, right?
