Thank you all for the responses. I should not be surprised that ow said this. It is hard for me to take the focus off my sitch when it affects the kids, but I know I have to. My daughter probably picks up my vibe of restoration, but she has often said she wants her mommy and daddy in one place.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11