purg - i laughed when i read your post about the perfume! one of my GAL goals is to slather myself (sounds attractive huh?) in pretty lotion right before bed. if H decides to sleep in our bed when he is home, there will be lingering memories of me. and if he doesn't notice.. well at least i'll feel pretty and i'll have soft skin!

as for your H's mean comments, i think the WAS will say whatever in order to validate their decision. it makes them feel better about wanting to leave. their comments.. their "reasons" are really more about them than they are about you. haha.. at least that's what my therapist tells me. see what money can buy you? jk. it's really hard to not take these kinds of comments to heart.

i lost about 15 pounds too when bomb dropped. now i'm slowly losing more for myself (can't believe how much weight crept up over the years.. especially when i look at pregnancy photos.. ugh!). everyone else has commented but not my H. i looked at myself in the mirror yesterday and thought.. wow! i HAVE lost a lot of weight! your H may not say it to you but you can bet he's noticing and probably checking you out too. he just can't let you know about it. just keep doing what you're doing.

your H is right in some ways. when you become more more confident about yourself and realize how beautiful you are (without his acknowledging), it will radiate outwards and people can't help but to see you differently. so how do we get you there?


Me:38.. H:33.
Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3
M:8.. together for 11.
Bomb dropped:10/17/11
Separated:11/07/11