Purg- Your motives to stay faithful sound like mine. Its encouraging to hear someone else with the same focus. Thank you.

I would say my W struggled with the same body image as you explained. We have very similar struggles as you described. I married her for who she was as well, not the size of her clothes.

Glad you're taking care of yourself. Its good for YOU and that's what's important right now.

Purg said: Is that really possible? How do you gain 'attractiveness' in someones eyes who has clearly decided that you are repulsive?? I can't ever be the size 2, blonde that I was when we met 9 years ago.... how do I catch his eye??

IMHO, confidence and inner peace are extremely attractive. When my W and I met, I learned her life story. 2 drunk parents. Dad was abusive and mom was checked out. Dad ran off with a young girl when she was 13. Her mom died when she was 16 and W had to move in with an aunt & uncle she barely knew.

Dispite these challenges, she had one of the warmest smiles I'd ever seen and she seemed truly happy. And yes, I can still tell you exactly what she was wearing the day i "noticed" her for the first time, but it was who she was that I fell in love with. Still hoping to see her again someday.

Keep up the GAL for yourself. Ultimatley, that is what will carry you through regardless.


Me:45, W:45
S:16 D:13
M:22, T:25
Bomb: July 2010
Putting finances in order for "D"
Continue to live in same home-separate rooms