WHG: Down the rabbit hole I guess

[workinghardguy]

Thanks everyone for the thoughts... I should have been clearer. Most of those points are simply what w and I have agreed to. If those questions arise those are our answers. The message we intend to start with is fairly basic... We're divorcing. The divorce will be likely be before summer. Some time next week mom is moving to the basement.

The rest is what happens if/when the questions start. I suspect the first question will be about moving. Though I get the part about summer... Perhaps simply at some point mom and kids will be moving and we will let you know at least a few weeks in advance is a better option.

As far as the book reading thing... That came from SS's therapist... I can't say I like it much either... My first reaction was the same as yours OT, but I don't trust my gut much anymore. Maybe we'll end with the book.

One other piece I thought was interesting last night... W has been adamant that she intends to file for d next week while she is on vacation. As we were getting ready to leave she said she would write up what we discussed so she could file next week. I reminded her that she shouldnt file until the QDRO is set up otherwise the whe 401k issue will get screwed up. That I'm working with my 401k administrator but it will take a little time to get it figured out. Her response... Oh that's fine, I don't really care when I file, there's no huge rush.

.... Ummm except two days ago when there was. I don't think she's changing her view but clearly her mindframe is minorly different since we ate moving towards more space.