Hey WCF - sorry to have to say this but your text about the $10 comes across as nothing more than PURE PURSUIT! Are you really in that desperate need of the $10? Maybe you are and I should just zip it. But in the event you aren't don't you see how this comes across?
If I was your WAW I'd be thinking, REALLY!?! In the grand scheme of things this is what my H is worried about, $10 friggin dollars! Good grief!
"We'll see what happens. I feel apprehensive and dread any kind of attempt she might make at using this to play her power games. If it turns out that way, to heck with it. It's just ten bucks."
I think your words above ^^^^ speak for themselves just reverse the roles.
Stop the Pursuit, WCF. It's not attractive!
READ THIS ^^^^AGAIN WEST...
Wow....there are only 2 ways your w can see that email
Either you are using 10$ as an excuse for more contact (b/c who on earth would contact a divorcing spouse about such a small amount of money??)
OR WORSE, that your OCD is back, you have not changed AND OR
you come off being as uber cheap. Yikes...I almost hope she sees it as pursuit.
IMO, the best thing you can do now is either act as if you were joking
b/c like I said, who would make an issue of this small amount?
OR
that you wanted to make sure her math wasn't thrown off by the error
AND OR so that she knows you took care of accounting issues at work, they screwed up, and you wanted to make sure she understood the error
AND b/c you know how meticulous she is.
West this is a backslide imo.
It looks as if you don't realize how most people see this. Frankly, I don't know ANY ADULT who'd make an issue of this amount with anyone else and least of all, their soon to be former spouse...
unless they were furious and punitive, thinking she "ripped you off!!"???
But you're not furious...or are you, and just not aware of it?
If I were HER, AND IF I EVEN NOTICED THIS in my bank account, I would not make an issue of it.
It's just Too small to comment upon and I'd be concerned that I'd look OCD or pursuing if I brought it up to you...yes, that's how I'd feel if I were in HER shoes.
In YOUR shoes, I'd say not one word...
Even an impoverished man would look cheap commenting about this amount of money and FYI-- being impoverished isn't attractive.
See if there's a way you can un-do this. Val, 2, anyone else have a suggestion here?
It's just my take on it.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
