And ANS, if they don't ever wake up...I don't want to be married to one of them! I keep reminding myself of that.
For me, my H's "craziness" makes me feel like he may eventually pop out of this. (For example, this weekend, he is gone and can't tell me or the kids when he'll be home...the kids have an event with him tomorrow morning and he "doesn't know" if he'll go with them...he is 2,000 miles away and needs to buy an airline ticket...how can you not know? If the answer is "no", why can't you just say that to the kids?)
If he was truly in a good place with OW and his life, I believe I'd be seeing different behavior.
I need more and until he's ready to give it...I need to detach!
M 44, H 46 D11, D9, D5 Married 12 years PA confirmed 9/2011 I filed 3/2012 H moved out 7/2012