feeling like giving up.....former DBing against OW

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I like your ideas. I agree...if you are cold/quiet...OW looks that much warmer/appealing.

My H has been willing to do family stuff and if you have your S initiate it and S wants it, I'd say that's perfect. (as long as H doesn't say "no" so much that it hurts S)

I try to vent my more sinister/snarky thoughts here versus at H. I generally stay quiet when he is with OW unless I truly have something to say about the kids. But, then, I try to make it fun and light.

I have just started agreeing more with the people on here who say that it's hard to "compete" with OW. I just think we need to make ourselves look like the stable, loving, caring option. Let's hope the OWs are more crazy/unstable and aren't reading DB!

Your H did give you some indication of mixed feelings, so I think you should view that as a baby step. Just be cautious in getting too excited (to quote from Abbey)

I would love to see your H come around ITM! Maybe the $ piece is a wakeup call.