feeling like giving up.....former DBing against OW

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Thankfully H has been in recovery for awhile...he will have 2 yrs sober on feb. 17. there have been times that I thought he may have started drinking again but he has sworn that he has not and I nor my S14 have ever seen any different. He still goes by his sobriety bday as being Feb 17. although he has not worked on alot of the things that caused his drinking so IMO he is still behaving and acting as if he were drinking...dry drunk...

He actually did respond...just "ok..will call later"..but it was a response....He was probabley surprised that he recieved a message from me...that never happens. I think the A would have to end also before any big impact would be made...but what good does it do for me to look and act like the "evil xwife"...not having any contact and if there is its unpleasant...and then he can go to her and shes all rainbows and kittens and life is grand...why would he want to leave that ????
Im thinking I should just start including him in things we do...S14 pushes for that all the time anyways and I just avoid it. I think if I let S14 call like he wants to all the time and invite H to pizza etc...he would eventually start doing it and then we would at least have family time together to let him see what he is missing. and it wouldnt hurt my S14 either. I would love for him to see that his mom and dad can be civil...i just dont know if it will happen...he tends to avoid anything close to family time....