WHG - Oldtimer makes some very valid points. Keep it short and simple, make no promises you can't keep, no pretense, no script. Let it come from your heart and then listen. You may find that the kids have nothing to say, at least not at first. Give them time, check in on them often and be there for them... all of them.
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