Quote: if you were asked to rate your relationship on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being the absolute pits, and 10 being absolutely wonderful, how would you have rated it before, how would you rate it now, and what "rating" would it take for you consider yourself to be a "success"? Would it take being a "10" to get you there, or would raising from a "4" to an "8", doubling your satisfaction, make yourself feel "successful"?
When I came to this board in late July '03, my H and I were living seperate again for the second time in a year. I had lived through the dropping of two A bombs and was struggling to get my footing back under me.
I'd say that in July of '03 my M/R was a 3, we were speaking, seeing each other, being cordial...but my H still had NO intention or inclination to come home.
Today, my H IS HOME and I'd have to say (although it kills me to do so since I'm the queen of pessimism) that our R is an 7-8. I can see that my H is 'back' in every sense of the word...BUT there are still rough days on my end and triggers that threaten my otherwise peaceful resolve.
I guess the biggest change is I'm no longer AFRAID.
I believe we are a 'success' and that we can get to a 10 IF and ONLY IF I choose to get there, but right now...I'm pretty busy concentrating on me.
