Purg, I think you're right on about the "alien" part and doing things that are counter-intuitive. Thanks for the reminder.

You're not alone on the attraction thing either so hang in there. We've lost all aspects of intimacy with our WAS and that can't help but leave a void.

I've always thought my wife was beautiful even when she struggled with her weight. Since our move and the bomb, she has dropped 60lbs, wears much tighter clothes and looks more fantastic than ever...and I'm not alloweed to touch her. To say its difficult is an tremendous understatement.

It often seems like a punishment from the "alien".

I'm sorry for your sitch and feel for you. You're right, its not fair, but this WAS isn't interested in fair and that's just the reality of it. Be good to yourself and as hard as it is, find things to keep yourself busy and developing as your own person.

Since it is somewhat of a dangerous topic, I'll also say, be careful. The combination of loneliness and the lack of fairness can mess with your mind. Instead of wanting to save your M, you'll be tempted to say you deserve this love and may start looking elsewhere yourself. You're human and its not wrong to have these feelings. Just be aware and check yourself on what it is you really want.

You're stronger than you think you are.


Me:45, W:45
S:16 D:13
M:22, T:25
Bomb: July 2010
Putting finances in order for "D"
Continue to live in same home-separate rooms