Been thinking alot lately about why my W remains so very cold. My only explanation is that her love for me was/is very great and she is protecting herself from more hurt by me.
My advice to you regarding this is to stay out of her head. You don't belong there. You don't know what she feels or why she feels it! You do know what you feel though, and why you feel it. Keep your focus on you. The logistics/finances of a divorce IS simply a business transaction to the wife who wants the divorce, and her lawyer. It's hard...but it's that way. She feels entitled to as much as she can possibly get from you. You'll have to get over that "I can't believe you're doing this" attutude that we all get because, even though it's understandable, it serves NO useful purpose for you! I'm not kidding Rick...STFU and focus on you and what's best for you. This is war. Don't talk to her about it (divorce logistics/finances). She doesn't care. They are capable of coming across as being completely ruthless...and you have to respond (actions) according to what is in YOUR best interest. Continue to invest in Rick, in every way.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.