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Re: Too Little, Too late. 2 purgatory #2210891 01/07/12 03:10 AM
Joined: Sep 2011 Posts: 1,987 B BklynMom Member
BklynMom Member B Joined: Sep 2011 Posts: 1,987	He is acting moody because he feels guilty. He knows he is not doing the right thing but he is in a crisis or breakdown or whatever and cant think straight. I know its counter intuitive but I believe you need to validate him moving out - tell him its okay its a good idea and let life teach him the reality of the sitch. Let him see you S5 cry for him. Let him explain to S5 the separate apartment. i really think if he doesnt move out now he will spend his entire deployment cursing you for "forcing" him to stay in the home. Trust me I know him leaving is terrible for your kids but at this point in our stories we are causing the kids pain for months hoping to prevent years of pain. We need to do our best to think of this in a more long tern solution sense then solving it this month or next month. We can not make our H see the light. We can not make them see the pain they are unnecessarily inflicting. Life will show them that. He is in a crisis and he needs to let it play out. Accuracy is right on - H resents you for trying to make things better while he is not and it makes him feel bad about himself. he needs to see that it is him & not you. Keep on DBing. You can do it ---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13

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Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	12/31/11 10:04 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	dbmod	12/31/11 10:35 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/02/12 03:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/02/12 03:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/02/12 04:17 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/02/12 11:01 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/02/12 02:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/02/12 02:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	workinghardguy	01/02/12 02:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/02/12 06:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	sunshine76	01/02/12 07:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/04/12 03:57 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	workinghardguy	01/04/12 04:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/04/12 04:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/04/12 04:47 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/04/12 05:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	sunshine76	01/04/12 07:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/04/12 09:38 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/04/12 03:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/04/12 03:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	sunshine76	01/04/12 04:23 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/05/12 02:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/05/12 03:53 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/05/12 04:07 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/06/12 03:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/06/12 06:46 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Oneeleven	01/06/12 01:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/06/12 06:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/06/12 06:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	DestinyUnknown	01/06/12 08:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Oneeleven	01/06/12 06:40 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/06/12 06:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	stillhopin	01/06/12 08:16 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/06/12 09:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/07/12 03:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/07/12 03:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Nblost	01/07/12 03:37 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/07/12 02:59 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/07/12 03:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/07/12 04:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	adinva	01/07/12 05:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/07/12 05:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Rick1963	01/07/12 07:16 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/07/12 09:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/07/12 09:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/07/12 11:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/08/12 01:33 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	DestinyUnknown	01/08/12 02:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/08/12 04:08 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	DestinyUnknown	01/08/12 04:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	Hopeful321	01/08/12 06:27 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/08/12 07:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/09/12 03:40 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/09/12 08:55 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/09/12 05:34 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/10/12 01:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	MrBond	01/10/12 02:21 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/10/12 02:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/10/12 02:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/10/12 05:34 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/10/12 09:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 03:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/11/12 04:09 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	2thepoint	01/11/12 04:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 04:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	PERSEVERANCE	01/11/12 09:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 05:40 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	JamesG	01/11/12 06:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/11/12 06:31 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 08:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/11/12 08:57 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	workinghardguy	01/11/12 09:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	DestinyUnknown	01/11/12 09:57 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/11/12 10:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	JamesG	01/11/12 10:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/12/12 02:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/12/12 02:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/12/12 04:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/12/12 05:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/12/12 05:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/12/12 06:26 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/13/12 05:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/13/12 05:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/13/12 12:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/13/12 10:57 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	ces67	01/14/12 12:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/14/12 02:44 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/15/12 05:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	labug	01/15/12 06:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/15/12 10:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 02:14 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/16/12 02:38 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	nhmom	01/16/12 03:06 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 01:25 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BklynMom	01/11/12 04:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/11/12 04:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	BFloat	01/11/12 07:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	stillhopin	01/09/12 08:55 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	kolja	01/08/12 12:43 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	25yearsmlc	01/16/12 01:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/16/12 01:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too late. 2	purgatory	01/02/12 04:14 AM

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