The newest of my new threads...again!

[cat03]

so nice she was a grown up and let you know she wasn't ready... I so hate the teenage thing of just not calling, and say thanks but no thanks... not that I've had any luck these past year, lol... school and freelancing and kids, no time.
Hijack over, lol... I am glad to hear that you are ok either way, if they don't call or if they do

[whatisis]

Thanks Cat, I'm very OK when a person is adult and acts like it. I have to learn to handle the other kind a bit better I'm thinking that Rambo Lady is another Bookkeeper, a lady who wants companionship but when she's brought to the plate to bat suddenly wants more batting practice! Our phone conversation was wonderful, I even had a list of topics on hand in case things slowed! I used it once :)Otherwise, she was excited to hear from me, was animated and talkative and I found her nervous giggle kind of cute! She even told me what she liked about me. So, I'm just chalking it up to another lady who just ain't ready yet. Hey,she may surprise me yet, who ever really knows. lol

[antlers]

As busy as you are though, you'd find time for someone you were really interested in. People make time for things that are important to them.
If someone wants you in their life, they'll make room for you.
We shouldn't have to fight for a spot.
It's pretty simple really.
We do a disservice to ourselves by suggesting otherwise.

[whatisis]

As busy as you are though, you'd find time for someone you were really interested in. People make time for things that are important to them.
If someone wants you in their life, they'll make room for you.
We shouldn't have to fight for a spot.
It's pretty simple really.
We do a disservice to ourselves by suggesting otherwise.

I somewhat agree but firstly, I'm not important in her life and nor should I be. I'm a coffee date. But, that said, if you are interested in someone then you respect them by following through by letting them know you can't and say "how's next weekend". In fact, even if you're not interested, you respect them lol. I think Rambo lady has just been hit by the harsh reality that when you're on a dating site people actually want to go out with you. It's easy to trade emails and chat but when it comes down to meeting someone I think that stirs up a lot of stuff in people and sometimes they aren't ready. That's my theory,for what it's worth. I'm not going to put a harsh judgment on her, I just don't know what her reality is at this point. We'll see or we won't.
And G, yes you are so right. I told my girls last night that Bookkeepers email made me want to see her even more now (I won't try, of course)! My D14 says "I see a friendship coming on here" Hey, you never know lol.

[SunFunOne]

Wii: You are right - they're "coffee dates" - nothing more. Not unless something sparks in BOTH people and they want to see each other more. Then you make it work. (Josh and I met then never went a week without getting together and that was with me running a business, him working fulltime, us living 90 min apart and me raising kids including Ryan - you make it work)

I think that many people like to "play" on the online sites. Ego boost for some. Many are not ready. I think it's dumb to go there and not be ready.

JMHO

My son has tried Speed Dating. He lives right down the street from the meeting place. It was where I was going to go next if things didn't work out with Lava Life.

So what's up with What is today?

Barb

[whatisis]

Barb, I think for some people they want to be ready, they are lonely but when the reality of meeting someone hits, stuff gets stirred up and they want to retreat back to where it's comfy, familiar and safe. Let's face it, the idea of making yourself vulnerable is a frightening thought especially when you've had your ass handed to you before. I'd rather think that people are genuine but find the reality a little harder than they thought. I'm sure there are those who are out there playing games but I guess there are worse things in this world that can be done to you other than trading a few inconsequential emails with someone!
Today, I am watching football. D14 and 17 are going to a get together with a group of friends with whom STBX and I raised our children with. I've declined to attend...I've had enough "family" togetherness for this season! My divorce papers were to be submitted to the court last week but my lawyer hasn't informed me yet so, maybe it was to be next week. I might go visit my Mom tonight, we'll see...the day is young!
Maybe I'll hit on the bra-model later or HorneyDevil, who visited my profile yesterday...ooh, I feel so dirty even thinking about it lol.

[whatisis]

Barb, I think for some people they want to be ready, they are lonely but when the reality of meeting someone hits, stuff gets stirred up and they want to retreat back to where it's comfy, familiar and safe. Let's face it, the idea of making yourself vulnerable is a frightening thought especially when you've had your ass handed to you before.

You've hit it on the head. It even happens a few dates in. Part of the post divorce territory I guess.

Absolutely, look at MM, "dating, we're not dating!" and I said "Um, then why did you ask me whether I liked dating you two weeks ago?" It's a weird world!
Hey, here's a brief collection of some of my favourite quotes from ladies I've dated, near dated, emailed or talked with over the phone in the past few months. You know how I love quotes! Of course, "dating??? We're not dating" is my all-time fav.

*this isn't a date, it's a meeting
*I love to read about Nazi war atrocities
*In my opinion, the Apache Attack Helicopter is the ultimate flying machine
*When she told me that Alzheimer's patients at her workplace sometimes kick and punch her, I asked if she had any self defense training and she replied "I watch action movies, I like Rambo"
* I asked her if she ever watched Dancing With The Stars, she replied "I can't, if I change the TV station the old lady I work with will attack me"
*I don't need a man to take care of me, I can look after myself
*I once dated a guy who kept phoning and bugging me, so I gave him to my roommate.
*Y'know that FB profile picture of me you like so much? For that last comment, I'm gonna change it!
*You think like a grandpa
*While watching TV at her place, I suggested we watch a baseball game she says "get your own TV"

There's fun in everything!

[whatisis]

I just wanted to mention that the comments on my above list were often said to be humorous by the ladies, some were not. They are on my memorable list because they caught me off guard and I always find that amusing! They are not meant to belittle the ladies. I actually admire each of them for various reasons, no matter how briefly I interacted with them. I forgot to mention my most memorable quote so far, and that was from MM. I wrote this down just after she said it because it touched me:

"It doesn't matter what religion you are. What matters is the way God touches your heart and how you treat other people because of it. That's what's important"

A wise lady in many ways...and not so wise in others, just like the rest of us.

[whatisis]

OK, new lady on the hook. She's responded to my email and checked my profile. Let the fun begin, I am on a roll lol! I'm trying the chat 'em up a bit first technique versus shooting for the coffee date right off the bat. I like to vary my approaches...anybody know how you do heavy breathing by email?

[BeingMe]

You're so funny, Wii. And, I mean in the nice way.