not enought time and too much distance

[gunny]

AC,
I feel for you. She sounds really, really confused. You have done all that could be asked of you, and way more than most would have done.

Does anyone on here know what Catastrophic Spouse Support is?

Detachment for you is going to be key, and it sounds like you are on the right road, your attitude seems more confident. Is the OM pushing for a resolution between you two? Meaning, do you believe that he is influencing her decision to be more aggressive in what she wants? As most of the evidence on this board shows, rebound relationships (like this OM) generally do not work out. My thoughts are that you continue on with your life, develop some good relationships with both males and females, and let her come to the conclusion that maybe, just maybe, you are worth having in her life. Only time will tell. Keep me posted buddy!