Thanks, WHG. Fully agree that W has not brought in (she may never buy in). W seems surprised regularly about my postive attitude toward her, toward life, the potential promotion, etc. (I believe one of the reasons W keeps asking about the promotion is to see if it will actually happen and I will pull the trigger and put that change into place "permanently.") Agree that W does not trust that the changes are lasting. W seems most hung up on the why did it take you so long idea, there is nothing you can do to get me to reconsider idea, the it's too little too late idea, and the I want a new life without the M idea. My behavior from the past, pre-S, seems to be the basis for every decision she makes. IMO, it feels like she is Ding the person I was not the person I am.
Both W's and my parents are D. We used to talk about not wanting to go in the same direction.
