Nice to hear success stories from the online thing...there's a few people on here who have shared. Thank you. I was asking Rambo lover what kinds of outings she enjoyed. She replied that she can't do outings during the week. I said "so, lets say you wanted to have coffee with a freind on a weeknight, you would you be able to go?" She replied this morning "on the weekend...my friend" So, I said "OK friend, how about this weekend. I can do Sat or Sun afternoon. Give me a time and place that works for you and we'll go from there" We'll see.
Rambo lover emailed me her phone number, she'd like to talk on the phone to make sure she's comfortable with me before we arrange a coffee date, "I hope that's OK with you?". Sounds fair to me...although I hate phones lol!
I phoned Rambo Lover tonight and we talked for half an hour. She seems like a nice lady and has a sense of humour. She told me she once met a guy on the dating site and he kept bugging her all the time, phoning too often etc and she was trying to study for exams in a course she was taking. So finally she set him up with her roommate and they've been together for over a year now! I said "that makes you a matchmaker!" So she'll let me know about the weekend. I don't see why she wouldn't want to meet...but then, I never do! Oh and she doesn't like guys who are younger, she says she likes my age "and other things about you" She's 43. So, as always, we'll see.
A stud with a turtle and I know how to feed him! Wow, it's nice to hear a lady "likes" my age...and other things about me...as she giggled. She works with people with Alzheimer's and very much enjoys it, "except when they kick and punch me" she says. I asked her if she has any self defence training and she said "I watch action movies lol!" I said, "that's right, you're Rambo trained". She was studying to be an RN when her husband died five years ago, at 38, from a stroke. So she couldn't complete her course. I hope I hear from her, she seems like a nice, self-sufficient and fun lady. As always, we'll see!
Well, Rambo Lover has not called to arrange our coffee time. I'm not surprised cuz "Can I let you know. I'll call you, OK" probably means what it meant 21 years ago...it ain't happening. She could surprise me, who knows. I sent an email to Bookkeeper tonight wishing her a happy new year and letting her know I'm still open to that dinner we discussed. I figure if she isn't interested, she can ignore it. I'm not losing anything by giving it a shot. I enjoyed our coffee date so what have I got to lose. I won't bother her again if she doesn't respond. So, as always, we'll see.
Wii! Take your right hand and slap yourself across the face, would you???
You're sounding way too needy dear boy. Sometimes "Can I let you know? I'll call you" - just means life is busy and she hasn't figured out a slot for you yet. No need to jump to conclusions - don't be so impatient.
But also - keep talking to other prospects too.
And make sure you get off the computer and get out and have some FUN too!
OK, if you say so...slap, slap...didn't like that lol. This is still a new adventure for me! I'm a very reliable person, so if I tell you I'll let you know about this weekend, I will. She hasn't, so I take that as meaning it ain't happening. But, such is life. Don't worry Kml, I'm not sitting in front of the computer all night, actually, I'm there far less. I still do my meditation group, church activities and see friends. I'm OK in that regards. But I do know that when I take something on, I take it on full throttle and want to do it right, so I need to watch that tendency...I'm also a sensitive person and maybe over react emotionally when people are being people sometimes. Thanks for your input!
I just got a really nice reply from Bookkeeper, updating me on the happenings in her life. She said that she is not ready to search for a companion right now and it would be unfair of her to go out with me or any other men at this time. She told me how flattered she is at my effort, and very much appreciated being able to share with each other. She hoped I understood. I wrote back "I absolutely do understand! You'll find somebody wonderful when the time is right. Ingat ka "(means take care). I'm glad I made the effort to follow up. Her reply made me feel that the impressions I had of her originally were correct, she's a nice lady but just not ready. It was a nice ending and I felt respected...I know that won't always happen and I'll have to learn to deal with it
