Living with a WAW while going through a D part II

[workinghardguy]

Been thinking alot lately about why my W remains so very cold. My only explanation is that her love for me was/is very great and she is protecting herself from more hurt by me.

FWIW Rick... Tuesday when W and I were discussing telling the kids, at one point she became intensely angry. Her words... "No. I don't want them [the kids] thinking there is any chance of us getting back together because it's not going to happen. There is absolutely no way that will ever, ever happen." And they were said with such anger and vitriol.

And all I could think of was... wow... you're angry. Why are you so angry? Why does it make you so angry to think that the kids would think we have a chance of reconciling some day?

Obviously I don't know the answer... we can't know the answer. All I can know is that the concept of us reconciling touched a raw nerve. Brought out emotion in what had been, up to that point, a fairly reserved and even convo.

So why does she remain cold? Who knows. If it's apathy... like she just doesn't give a whip then that's one level of not caring. If it's "excessive cold" then there is something motivating the behavior. But it's not possible to know what that is.