I agree....don't. It does you no good. It's better to keep your dignity.
If you did decide to do it against the advice here don't say "hi" say something like "I have decided to separate from H because of all his lies....I would expect you not interfere with H ability to be available for our children."
Anyway....stay strong.
Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10