I am so glad that I am not alone. He can take a compliment and turn it around.
IT was at best an observation but it was not a compliment. So don't make any comments that are not obviously complimentary. FWIW, I would have taken the comment as a sign that my w thought I was boring...
I did not give him a compliment about the color of the sheets. If I implied that, I apologize. I made a statement to another post that my H could take a compliment and turn it around. It was indeed an observation on the color he purchased. I thought it was funny that he purchased all the sheets the same color. And I do give him positives compliments when they are deserved.
Are you sure you're not simply trying to manipulate him without making it obvious? What is really so complicated about telling him a purely nice comment?
No, I am not trying to manipulate him at all. Once again, I made an observation of the color only.
The other day you told your h that if you got off early you would help him BUT instead you planned to take a well deserved nap. Then Labug said "good for you only answer if it's needed" and let him learn to be on his own. Aside from sounding punitive, (like "teach him a lesson")
The problem with that approach IF it is even valid, is that you lied to him.
I guess what I failed to mentioned was that he gave me a timeline. His timeline for example was 7:30 to 8:00. And I got out a few minutes early.
My 180 with H is when he talks, I listen completely without interrupting him. And not over reacting when he wants to discuss something. Where before, I would just fly off the handle with him. I am working on giving him the benefit of doubt about things.
And my GAL, well I am school 3 nights a week, but the weekends that I don't have my D, I can be lazy if I want, or go shopping or to the movies, which I have been doing for myself. Tomorrow I am getting a facial. And Saturday night I am going to go visit a girlfriend.
how would marriage to you today be better than before?
Well, by us being separated for the past 6 months, I feel I have healed and found peace within myself regarding his EA last year with a co-worker. I no longer think about that. Since I have lost weight, I feel good about myself and it shows.
I know I still have a lot to work on and I am doing it.
