I am so glad that I am not alone. He can take a compliment and turn it around.
IT was at best an observation but it was not a compliment. So don't make any comments that are not obviously complimentary. FWIW, I would have taken the comment as a sign that my w thought I was boring...
He will occasionally apologize as well, far and few in between.
When I am around him, I am find myself rehearsing in my head about what I am going to say to him, so he doesn't think I am criticizing him.
good. Rehearse some positive compliments you can make. If you are not sure it's complimentary, do NOT make the comment.
Are you sure you're not simply trying to manipulate him without making it obvious? What is really so complicated about telling him a purely nice comment?
The other day you told your h that if you got off early you would help him BUT instead you planned to take a well deserved nap. Then Labug said "good for you only answer if it's needed" and let him learn to be on his own. Aside from sounding punitive, (like "teach him a lesson")
The problem with that approach IF it is even valid, is that you lied to him.
or at best You made a promise you had no intention of keeping so you would not look bad. But you accuse him of the same thing, and you don't give him the benefit of any doubt the way you give yourself.
What would HE think if he knew you promised to come help him while knowing you wanted your nap instead? All I'm saying is--- If you deserve a nap, own that and tell him. It's communication 101...and both parties have to do it.
Receive a call from H on my way to class tonight. He asked if I got out early if I could come by and help with our D and he said that I could spend the night if I wanted to. I said sure, because I knew I wasn't getting out early. But it turned out I did get out a little early. But decided to come straight home and let him deal with her.
see any pattern?
what are YOUR 180s and GAL?
how would marriage to you today be better than before?
If you cannot answer that with changes on your end, then why will he come home?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
