ITM,
I wish I had something tangible to fight. I think I just decided we need to separate. Our MC called me to set up an appointment for Monday and his belief is that H is truly on the fence. However, he doesn't think H wants to hurt me...and so he'll never get off.

He thinks H is waiting for me to make a move or he'll continue like this forever. Why change? He has the best of both worlds. And, we doubt OW will cave before me...she is going through a divorce and likely in no rush to settle down again.

MC also thinks H isn't telling me things because he doesn't want to hurt me. Who wants to tell the mother of their children that they're having a great time without her every weekend with another woman?

MC also doesn't think H is unusual.

Sad, yes. But, just more of the same. Given I don't know where H is this weekend or when he is coming home...it feels like my decision is made.

Too bad I don't know when H will be home so I knew when we'd be able to talk about this in person. UGH!!!


M 44, H 46
D11, D9, D5
Married 12 years
PA confirmed 9/2011
I filed 3/2012
H moved out 7/2012