Not put fear in her, and you're right that I don't want her to decide to stick around out of pure logistics. But, given that this isn't going to be the soft landing/easy out that she thinks it is, I figured why subject ourselves to the process?

However, I should know well enough by now that logic doesn't apply. Guess I'm just grasping for something more constructive to say than "I'm not giving you $12,000 to walk away."

Me: 36
Her: 35
Together 7/09
Married 8/7/10
Separate rooms since at least April 11
"I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11
She moves out of state/files 2/7/12
Dissolution final 5/12