N, I disagree with that last statement and the statistics actually prove it. A greater percentage of second marriages fail than first marriages, an even great percent with the third marriage, etc. The reason in my mind is very clear....because people fail to do two things;
1-Define what they truly want out of a marriage 2-They never accept their part in the failed marriage
We now live in a society that doesn't reward personal responsibility....the schools are too hard, everybody is a winner, and hard work isn't rewarded but almost frowned upon. So why should it be different in a failed marriage...it is always the other spouses fault. I am not a religious man, but they had it right when they said he who hasn't sinned can through the first stone. Hence in our world the biggest step we can make is not blaming the runaway spouse, but instead looking in the mirror and say "What could I have done differently?". Now that doesn't mean you are the cause of his actions....just taking ownership in our part of what has happened. Someday your husband will have the same revelation about his actions....not right now because he is being distracted and living the happy live. IN all the cases of affairs on here that eventually happens sometimes in months, sometimes years regretfully. Their revelation time is out of our control.
What you posted above was by far the best posting you have done yet....truly DB'ing and saying what YOU want.
After three years on this site.....I have lots of great questions and every now and then an insightful opinion. The one thing I will tell you is truly embracing DB'ing will change your life. Not just how you attempt to win your husband back, but how you interact with others and see the world.
And yes Virginia...Sometimes people even get their spouse back...and a whole new marriage
