Wgh seems to me to be about as far from creAting a worst case scenario in his head as I've seen here. He expects the kids to do well and lead good lives. He is way o er optimistic about what co-parenting will be like. He consistently tells himself and w that the kids will be fine.
His concern is with telling the kids prematurely so that they have to live in a shared household with that knowledge for months. There is no real point to it that I can see except that w has a selfish psycholgical need to put a new nail in the coffin. She could find OTHER ways to create the psychological space she wants. I don't think wgh was trying to Pre-coddle the kids, but rather taking reasonable interest in their welfare. Just a few weeks ago w, WHG and the counselor agrees on a reasonable timetable. Trying to return to that timetable after W's decree isn't over the top.
