Sorry for all the trouble. After years of being treated poorly, I told my W this morning that I want to sell the house and seperate. Quick run down of my sitch:
W had an EA October-November 2010, I set boundaries, tell her NC and she agrees. She does not backslide even through to today. But she is not good for me. Always angry, critical, not happy and not affectionate at all. She has depression. And both our MC and her IC sees it.
About a month ago my IC asked if I could live my life this way. Because most likely she will change very little if at all. I decided I can't.
I love her and this hurts but I know it is something I must do for myself. And I will not go back. I have not been perfect but I am a good man worthy of love and comfort and understanding.
As are you NLG... We are not doormats. I finally reached my point of no return. And trust me when I tell you that I have to fight myself not to go back. But I WILL NOT go back. Because there is nothing left there for me.
I feel sad. Very sad. But sure in my decision.
I hope you find piece in your decision as well.
And just a bit of advise. No more ML... It confuses everything.
AGood luck!
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
