Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

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Starsky...good question.

I think I know because H told me when he first met OW. They met on a plane and she was coming to our area for a girls trip. He actually told me that she and her friends seemed like really fun women and it'd be cool if I could go out with them. I think he also mentioned at that point that one of them was going through a divorce. (I believe they swapped phone numbers at this point and H was also telling the group to give one of his friends a call who lived in the fun city the "girls" were visiting). At that point, he had no reason to lie.

I believe OW is separated because he was texting her at one point when I saw the texts and telling her he would stay with her versus at a hotel. I believe they stay at her house quite a bit when she doesn't have her kids. (Actually, I know this from seeing receipts for a gas station by her house which is nowhere near his work or typical hotel)

H also told me at one point that she and her "ex" get along well.

I guess I also believe she has some freedom because I know for a fact that they went on a 3 day vacation the week before Christmas (saw receipts for her ticket).

But, I can also tell from public data that she isn't officially divorced yet.

I actually don't think H has lied to me a lot when he actually says something...he's more a master of the "lies of omission" and he's admitted that. I think when he does say something (which is rare), it tends to be true although usually not the level of detail I would need to really know the truth.

I guess I'm not sure it matters anyway...I could text or email OW right now if I wanted to...but I've chosen not to confront her and give her that much power.