Retrouvaille means change

[TrentC]

Now that I think of it, I remember my wife saying something similar on our way to Retrouvaille: "Maybe this will give us tools that we can use in our next relationships."

If he is going through a midlife crisis, he's suffering through an intense emotional crisis that Retrouvaille is not set up to address. I would try to find a copy of Men in Midlife Crisis by Jim Conway; that is a good place to start learning more. I would also look into the MLC sites and the MLC forum on DB that I referred to earlier. I forgot that external links aren't allowed on the DB forums, but you can Google for them.

I don't want to discourage you from going to Retrouvaille; but based on my experience with a spouse in MLC, I don't know that it is going to help the two of you at this time. (With that said, I think it is a wonderful program; I would love to do it again if and when my wife is more willing to work on things.)

As for how he is going to react? You have no way of predicting how he is going to react. He could very well accuse you of "giving up", but he could just as easily accuse you of hanging onto a relationship that he considers over. All that trying to predict his responses and trying to make him happy will do is drive yourself crazy.