Update: Brought dinner home last night and put on a kids' movie so the family could have a fun dinner out of the kitchen. W initially stayed in the kitchen then joined us for about 15 minutes then left saying she wanted to take a walk. While we were setting up for dinner W asked me about the promotion. I told her that the boss contacted me again and it was a positive conversation but that he said that he has not yet made a decision. W said that she feels positive about me getting it and then said that she wants me to get it and have success regardless of "what is happening with us." When I didn't say anything, she said, "you know that I want that for you, right? You deserve it." I said, sure and then left the room. W then re-engaged the job conversation two times while we were eating to say that she thought I was going to get it and to ask me how was I feeling about it. I said it's a big move away from what I have been doing professionally for a long time but that I was excited about it being a new adventure and that it would provide more financial security in the future (although I put this out there, I did not say more or try to use it as a R discussion, I just answered her question). W later asked about my plans for the weekend, telling me that she has no plans, and then asked about making arrangements to go out with one of her girlfriends. She said she wanted to continue the working together we have been doing. I said, sure, go, have a great time. Later, during the same conversation, W paid me a compliment about a project that I recently finished at home, saying I did it professionally.
Here is the thing: as a we interacted, I kept wanting to ask my W, why again are we getting D? We have not argued or had a negative interaction since the S (3 months). We are working very well together. We are focused on the kids. I have made big-time changes. I do not understand why my W wants to destroy our family when there has been so much progress. I want to talk to her about this but do not know if it is a good idea or even how to approach the subject. To me, I and the M/R have become what she said she always wanted but despite this, she is moving forward with the D, even letting me know by e-mail yestereday first thing in the morning that she signed up for the required children's class. I don't get it.
