Wow, i just read over your posts from the beginning... and it's doesn't look like you've had much support. I'm sorry. That's not usually the case, but it will be easier when you aren't moderated so there's no delay.
I wanted to pop back in a see how you're doing I read back over your posts with a different filter- that H is deployed (for some reason that didn't sink in with me the first time around).... I'm a Navy wife- I get it. My H and I have been M for 7 years and he's only been home for 3 years of that (2 years straight and 1 years of months added together). He is getting ready to go to A-stan in July, for 385 days. I've been struggling with the fact that he wants to have our legal separation filed before he leaves and he's already changed his Will. DestinyUnknown (just look up her name because her posts are all over the place) is a user who was able to DB while her H was deployed, I've read over her sitch and it was insightful. She still posts every once and a while, maybe you could reach out to her and she can come read your posts, she's helped me out a few times.
You do have rights and there maybe something you an do to protect yourself from him expecting you to leave. Call the JAG officer on your base/post and they will meet with you for free to discuss any legal actions that need to take place.
Please keep posting and feel free to check out my sitch (the link to my original posts are on the first page of my current one) and maybe something in there will inspire you.
Hang in there!!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
I read back over your posts with a different filter- that H is deployed (for some reason that didn't sink in with me the first time around).... I'm a Navy wife- I get it. My H and I have been M for 7 years and he's only been home for 3 years of that (2 years straight and 1 years of months added together). He is getting ready to go to A-stan in July, for 385 days. I've been struggling with the fact that he wants to have our legal separation filed before he leaves and he's already changed his Will. DestinyUnknown (just look up her name because her posts are all over the place) is a user who was able to DB while her H was deployed, I've read over her sitch and it was insightful. She still posts every once and a while, maybe you could reach out to her and she can come read your posts, she's helped me out a few times. 
