I'm in a similar position - trying to drag my heels as much as I can; not wanting to help her make this happen but not wanting to make her headspace any worse than it already is...
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12