"Second, The simple fact that he *expects* that I will do this (because it's what I've always done) goes to the fact that he *likes* having a W to help. Now don't get me wrong, I don't want to be missed only for doing chores, BUT he is going to have a rude awakening when he's on his own and doesn't have dinner ready for him when he gets home and is 'starving!!' the second he walks in the door; when he doesn't have clean clothes magically folded and ready for him; the fridge and pantry are magically full of food; when he comes home to an empty house and no one to talk to; and when he decides to go on a trip and I'm not there to plan/pack/unpack for him. These luxuries are part of the whole package of having a W.... and I think that he hasn't realized the *whole* package he's walking away from"
I totally relate to this. I think that separation is the only for some people to see that its a whole package. Yes - you didnt act nicely & you need to change that but you were expressing your love for him & the family in other ways.
Hang in there, you are doing awesome
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13