We have an adult (recently college grad) daughter together. Actually, it's her daughter; my step-daughter. But, she lives elsewhere.
My W did text me yesterday, as she was waiting to go into her exercise class. Basic chit-chat. Asked how my day went.
It's all these caring gestures: the final hug/kiss goodbye; the "I'm going to miss you"; the "how's your day going" texts; and maybe the occasional "let's get together" which make me feel better, like there is hope for a reconciliation. However, at the same time, it also hurts. It hurts, because, if she gives an inch, I want a yard. Not sure if that makes sense.
Some people may feel space/separation as an opportunity for the heart to grow fonder, which very well may be true. But, I can also agree that space/separation provides the opportunity for couples to grow more distant from one another, due to the lack of contact.
I guess my question is: Do I let her initiate all the contacting? That seems kind of lopsided, as if I wasn't putting forth any effort.
