Have you said the words to him "The door is open when you are willing to work on our R"?
If so, then you are simply looking out for yourself and how he perceives your actions is simply that....how he perceives them. You aren't responsible for his understanding anymore than he is responsible for yours.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!